Today’s gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. However, an inevitable by-product of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalisation of shame, which some gay men may strive to obscure behind a facade of beauty, creativity, or material success. In the effort to cope or distract themselves, many gay men experience such problems as substance abuse, depression, suicide, and sex addiction. Drawing on contemporary research, the author’s own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, this empowering book passionately describes the stages of a gay man’s journey out of shame. It also offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behaviour. This is an excellent guide to looking at the issues which we all may never have realised come from our childhoods, and is highly recommended by many gay therapists, as well as being one of our perennial best sellers due to word-of-mouth recommendations. This new edition has been updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural, and political changes, and has 48 more pages than the first edition.
Paperback, 272 Pages, Orig. Publ. 2006, This Ed. Publ. 2012